5 Tips For Supporting Children's Grief

Supporting a grieving child can feel overwhelming especially when you’re grieving too. Children process death and loss in ways that are often confusing to adults. Their understanding changes over time, and their emotions may come out in big behaviors, silence, or even through their play. As a Certified Child Life Specialist, I’ve worked with many children and families navigating the complexities of loss. In this post, I’m sharing 5 tips for supporting children’s grief that are simple, practical, and rooted in child development.

5 Tips for Supporting Children's Grief

1. Use Age-Appropriate Explanations

When talking to kids about death or serious loss, use honest, clear, and simple language. Avoid phrases like “passed away” or “went to sleep,” which can confuse young children. Instead, use direct but gentle words like "died" and explain what that means in a way they can understand. This is one of the most important tips for supporting children’s grief, especially during the early earlier stages of development.

Ask yourself: What does this child need to know right now, and what language makes sense for their age?

2. Incorporate Play

Children often express grief through play before they can fully process with words. Use familiar materials like dolls, markers, toys, or books as tools for processing and expression. Grief-themed children’s books can help normalize their feelings and open the door for questions and conversations.

Try setting up a “feelings corner” with art supplies or reading a book together about loss.

3. Follow Their Lead

Grief is not one-size-fits-all. Let children set the pace. Some may want to process right away, while others may process more independently or slowly over time. Give them permission to ask questions when they’re ready and reassure them that their feelings are okay.

Saying something like “You can talk to me anytime. I’m here when you’re ready” leaves the door open for future conversations.

4. Be Present and Check In Often

Grief isn’t a one-time conversation. Stay emotionally available and continue checking in. Even a simple, feeling check-in (download here) can open space for reflection. Your consistent presence builds trust and keeps the door open for future conversations as their understanding evolves.

Grief support is ongoing. Kids benefit from knowing you haven’t forgotten.

5. Take Care of Yourself, Too

Supporting a grieving child is emotionally taxing. Don’t forget to care for yourself as well. Whether that means utilizing your support system, talking to a professional, or simply taking a quiet moment to yourself, your own well-being matters. Children are sensitive to the emotional energy around them. When you’re regulated, they feel safer too.

One of the most overlooked tips for supporting children’s grief is remembering to ask yourself: Who is supporting me as I support my child?

You’re Not Alone

These 5 tips for supporting children’s grief are just a starting point. Every child’s experience is unique, and sometimes, personalized support can make all the difference.

At The Grieving Space LLC, we specialize in supporting children ages 3–12 and their families as they navigate serious illness, death, and grief. If you’re unsure how to help your child or you just need someone to walk alongside you The Grieving Space LLC is here.

Contact me today to schedule a free consultation and learn more. We’re currently accepting new clients and would be honored to support your child through their grief.