How to Prepare Kids for Big Changes: Support Through Grief, Loss & Life Transitions

Grief and loss often bring big changes, and for a child, those changes, whether moving to a new home, starting a new school year, or adjusting to different routines can stir up a mix of confusing emotions, making transitions feel even more overwhelming for kids. That’s why it’s so important to guide children through what’s happening, helping them understand, process, and adapt to the changes in a way that feels safe and supportive.

At The Grieving Space, we work with children and families to navigate these moments with compassion and clarity. Here are some ways you can support your child through grief, loss, and other life transitions.

Start with Gentle, Honest Conversations

It can help to begin by talking with your child about the changes they might experience. Honest conversations about what could look or feel different at home or school give children a clearer sense of what to expect. You might share how daily routines could shift, who will be there to support them, or how family life might feel different for a while.

Using age-appropriate language and tools can make these talks easier to understand while giving kids a greater sense of control during uncertain times.

Highlight What Will Stay the Same

When so much is changing, it’s equally important to focus on what remains familiar. Routines, rituals, and trusted relationships can be powerful sources of comfort for a grieving child. Whether it’s a favorite bedtime story, Saturday morning pancakes, or playtime with a close friend, these constants reassure kids that not everything in their world is changing.

This stability can be especially grounding for children coping with grief.

Validate All Feelings

Children experiencing change and loss may feel sadness, anger, confusion, or even relief. Letting them know these emotions are normal helps them feel seen, understood, and less alone. Gentle phrases like, “It’s okay to feel sad when someone isn’t here anymore,” or “Change can be hard, and it might take time for us to get used to this new routine,” give children permission to express their feelings in a safe space.

Validating emotions also helps build trust, which is key in supporting grieving kids.

Offer Choices to Restore a Sense of Control

Big changes can make children feel powerless. Offering choices, like which outfit to wear, which stuffed animal to bring on a trip, or which snack to have after school can help them regain a sense of control. These decisions don’t have to be big, but they should be realistic and manageable so kids don’t feel overwhelmed.

Give Space and Ongoing Support

Finally, remember that processing grief and adjusting to change is not a one-time conversation but an ongoing journey for yourself and your kids. Give your child space and time to process their feelings, and let them know they can always come back to you with questions or worries. These ongoing moments of connection provide reassurance and help children build resilience as they adjust to a new normal.

Professional Support for Kids Coping with Change and Loss

Sometimes, extra support is needed. A child life specialist can provide tools, resources, and coping strategies tailored to your child’s needs.

At The Grieving Space, we provide therapeutic services for children in Chicago and surrounding areas. Our goal is to help kids feel safe, supported, and understood as they navigate grief and big life transitions.